Sick and Tired of it
I am sick and tired with not having any support. I don’t want to do this alone. I know how much help people here can be, I see it in the success stories and in the recipes and the blogs, but it would be really nice if he would just get off his computer and come out and walk with me. I don’t like going by myself, but I guess that’s something that has to change. I don’t want to keep asking ‘When are we going out’, I want to say ‘Lets go’ and have him MOVE. He’s been sitting there on his computer for HOURS now, barely speaking to me, infact his headphones are on so he can’t even HEAR me. It’s so damn fustrating. The funny part is that he talks about how fat he is too. I can see the look of shame on his face when he takes off his clothes. But he just doesn’t want to put forth any effot to change it. It’s so damn aggrivating.
Why is it so hard to find someone who will go out and walk with you? I’m not content to be this weight. I was a size 16 before I got pregnant! Sure, I may not have been ‘ideal’ but I was damn near a hundred pounds lighter then… I just want to be happy and it’s hard to be happy when you have to find shirts that don’t excentuate how fat your arms are, or pants that don’t cause your love handles to roll over the side. I’m tired of being fat… and I’m an emotional eater. I don’t eat when I’m pissed, I eat when I’m stressed which seems to be all the time these days. Between my son, him, and my job… I feel like I’m losing my mind sometimes. I physically hurt. My back hurts my shoulders hurt, I’m getting migraines again, and I’m pretty sure I’ve developed sleep apnea.
I want to be healthy. I don’t care about being thin, I just want to be healthy and happy and un ashamed of putting on nice clothes and going out for dinner. I don’t want to have to think about how many people are staring at me when I go out thinking ‘Gee, think you need that fatty? Sure, have another noodle chubby.’
I bought a beautiful red dress some time ago. I haven’t worn it because I’ve been ashamed of how I’d look in it. My goal is to fit into that little red dress and FEEL like a bombshell.
…I CAN do this and I WILL do this. I’m DONE being the fat girl.
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For one, this is your journey. You can’t expect others to do this with you. If you do that, you may never get to your own personal goal.
So I say, stop looking to your honey to do this with you. Perhaps by going out there and doing this on your own you may inspire him to do it too.
I’ve learned many things from doing this for many years: screw others - if they don’t want to do this it’s their problem not mine. I don’t need anyone because I have to do this for me. Support is great but don’t expect for it to land in your lap. Yes, sites like this is great because we know your struggle.
Remember, no one can motivate you until you are ready to do this. Good luck!
Hey girl—You are right at the weight I was when I started here last Novemeber. I had just ended a 7 year relationship and was determined to change my attitude and lfe. 6 months later, I am 63 pounds lighter and had no person there with me—you CAN do this yourself—you WANT it bad enough? Get it girl! We will support you and when he sees ALL the changes you make—maybe that will motivate him and inspire him to change too! You CAN do it!
I understand how frustrating it can be to not have any help and support, but like Nancy said, this is your journey. Do this for you and only you. Maybe when your man starts seeing your progress and effort he may want to start too…maybe not, but you never know. Just know in your heart what you want and KNOW YOU CAN GET THERE! You can do this girl! We are right here with you!
You can do this! I always said that I wanted someone to walk with me too. When I use to walk (before my weight gain) I found such serenity in taking those long walks. It was my little get away.
I too am an emotional eater. I also know what you mean about clothes. Since I gained all this weight I hate shopping, and yes I have the same thoughts when I go out about what people are thinking about how I look. I was talking to a very wise woman (my Mom) and she made a really good point. She simply said “what other people think about you is none of your business”.
We spend so much time focusing on what others think that we miss out on the enjoyment of life. If you ever need someone to chat with just shoot me a message. I may not have answers for you, but I can be there to listen
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you know what? many times my husband sits in front of the computer and doesn’t want to go on a walk with me either, but I’ve learned to enjoy going by myself. Go out with your ipod or just yourself and enjoy your surroundings! Even if this journey is going to be alone, you have to do it and you CAN do it!
Yeah, I agree with the others. Make it fun for you–make it your personal time. Got a dog? Take him for walks. Got a MP3 player or something, crank you the music and get going.
I too have a hubby that doesnt wanna walk with me. He did twice I think and that was it. So, I grab one of my dogs, and my music and go without him.
Best of luck to ya girl!!
I know how you feel. I joined a gym with nooooooo fat people. I was there for about 25 minutes and wanted to leave but then I relized that it was just another excuse to give up on myself. I hate doing this alone but my hubby and I work different times. I work 11am-11pm in the ER. He works the normal 9-5. You just have to do it for you. You have to know you are worth the effort. Never give up on yourself. If you need to talk I’m here.
