MommyNeva

So, I got the news this morning, my brother’s wife endured 26 hours of labor with no medication and they have a beautiful little girl named Faith Rose. She was a whopping 5lbs 14 ounces and  has had no trouble breathing ect despite her tiny body. I haven’t seen her yet, but I’m totally excited she sounds so precious! Anyways, just wants to share that and this

 So I walked 7 miles today and I’m feeling good, I also just splurged and put in my first payment for my power 90 video set. I cant wait for it to come in the mail! Today is just a happy day

Hop eyou ladies are doing pretty wonderful yourselves.

So, for you moms with low income who have financial aid, you may know what WIC is. For those of you who do not, WIC is a government approved program that provides the basic food needs for children in low income families. So, I had an appointment at the WIC office, and everything went well–And then they told me my son is overweight. (I’m going to post a picture of my son on here so you can make your own judgements.) Now, mind you, My son is only in the top maybe 80 percent on the standard chart for his height.

The reason this really ticked me off is this : My son was born via emergency C-section because I had pre-eclampsia. For those of you who don’t know what that is, it’s a blood pressure problem that only occurs in pregnant women. The severe cases can lead to strokes, and death for both mother and baby. The only cure is for the baby to be born. My son was 6 weeks premature. Because of his prematurity, my son was born with what is known as a VSD (Ventricular Septic Heart Defect.)

Now just imagine being drugged up to something that makes you feel the worst you’ve ever felt in your life, you can’t think, you have trouble remembering anything–You are seperated from your child for over 18 hours because he’s stuck in an incubator and you can’t move because of the gash in your stomach and the IV’s stuck in your arms. (Fun huh?) And then imagine finally getting to go see him, only you can’t hold him because he’s too fragile and there are too many wires around him. When they finally let you pick him up, his oxygen machine starts beeping like crazy and you’re wondering if you’ve just harmed your 5lb 1oz infant, terrified because this is the first time you’ve ever held something so small.

 The tubes come out, he’s starting to eat on his own but the pediatric doctor says he needs to speak to you. They’ve done an ultrasound and he has bad news. He’s bringing in a specialist to see just how serious it is. Open heart surgery might be needed. He’s only 4 days old…

You put on a strong face, your little one is holding your finger in his little tiny hand, he’s looking at you like you’re familiar and you smile and coo to tell him it’s okay. Meanwhile the doctor is showing you pictures of the heart defects. He’s telling you that one is normal, it will close on its own, but the other one… the other one is big. If he doesn’t gain weight, Open heart surgery is the only way to save his life… He gives you a pamphlet with definitions and directions, he tells you to read it 10 times, to know all the words, to treat it like your bible.

He pats your hand and tells you not to blame yourself. It’s not your fault! The tears stream down your face and you smile at him and tell him that you know. Your little one is sleeping now, and you hope to God, you pray to him that he will make it all okay. You have been through so much already. You take the pamphlet and it’s time to go home. Only…

You’re going home alone.

There will be no little cries in your house as you stumble around trying to clear the fogginess of the drugs they’ve given you to stave off the pain. There will be no party, no happy faces to come and greet the little one. There’s just you… too sad to cry.

He comes home 4 days later, and you’re over joyed. You have read the book! You know what to do! Every two hours you feed him, you have NO HELP, it’s just you. You feed him and then you write down the Milli-liters in your little book. The goal is 45 ML. He has to drink that much or they’ll take him back, so you sit for a half hour out of the two hour window and beg his little body to take in the nourishment that is the difference between breaking his too tiny ribs, or waiting until he’s bigger, until it’s a little less risky….

 And now you’re at the WIC office, and they’re telling you he’s fat. He just had his one year checkup, and though the hole is still big, it’s stabilized. THey don’t know if or when it will change in the future. He may still need Open Heart Surgery. It’s a foreboding glimpse into your future…But the lady is standing there telling you he’s overweight, even though you’ve told her his condition, you’ve told her what the opposite means. What happens when he doesn’t continue to gain a little weight.

 Now that you’ve taken my journey, maybe you can understand my anger. My son is far from overweight. He does not have a double chin, He does not struggle to move. — And then you get a letter in the mail saying that your family has been referred to a dietician. They urge you to take advantage of this.

If your son is not fat… why are you getting this letter in the mail???

Because YOU are fat.

…….I have nothing else to write. I’m upset, and maybe my anger is misplaced, but… I don’t need other people to tell me that I’m fat. I tell myself that every day.

My mother just got in touch with me and told me that my brother’s wife went into labor a couple hours ago. Her water broke at home and she’s 2 1/2 centimeters dilated!

 Sorry, I was excited and just had to tell someone.

So, I’ve read all the reviews, the bad and the good, and I’ve concluded that I want to buy this dvd set. It’s a little pricey (only 3 payments of 19.95) plus the S&H but I think it’ll really be worth it.  Since I hate going to the gym, I figure I’ll bring the gym to me!! I already talked to my guy about it and he told me I can order it as soon as I get get my paycheck. I’m so excited about it, I can hardly wait!

 Anyways, just wanted to share that with everybody. Hope you are all having a good day

I am sick and tired with not having any support. I don’t want to do this alone. I know how much help people here can be, I see it in the success stories and in the recipes and the blogs, but it would be really nice if he would just get off his computer and come out and walk with me. I don’t like going by myself, but I guess that’s something that has to change. I don’t want to keep asking ‘When are we going out’, I want to say ‘Lets go’ and have him MOVE. He’s been sitting there on his computer for HOURS now, barely speaking to me, infact his headphones are on so he can’t even HEAR me. It’s so damn fustrating. The funny part is that he talks about how fat he is too. I can see the look of shame on his face when he takes off his clothes. But he just doesn’t want to put forth any effot to change it. It’s so damn aggrivating.

Why is it so hard to find someone who will go out and walk with you? I’m not content to be this weight. I was a size 16 before I got pregnant! Sure, I may not have been ‘ideal’ but I was damn near a hundred pounds lighter then… I just want to be happy and it’s hard to be happy when you have to find shirts that don’t excentuate how fat your arms are, or pants that don’t cause your love handles to roll over the side. I’m tired of being fat… and I’m an emotional eater. I don’t eat when I’m pissed, I eat when I’m stressed which seems to be all the time these days. Between my son, him, and my job… I feel like I’m losing my mind sometimes. I physically hurt. My back hurts my shoulders hurt, I’m getting migraines again, and I’m pretty sure I’ve developed sleep apnea.

 I want to be healthy. I don’t care about being thin, I just want to be healthy and happy and un ashamed of putting on nice clothes and going out for dinner. I don’t want to have to think about how many people are staring at me when I go out thinking ‘Gee, think you need that fatty? Sure, have another noodle chubby.’

I bought a beautiful red dress some time ago. I haven’t worn it because I’ve been ashamed of how I’d look in it. My goal is to fit into that little red dress and FEEL like a bombshell.

…I CAN do this and I WILL do this. I’m DONE being the fat girl.

SO, I’ve decided to get started with all this. My first goals are this 1) To wear the pedometer i got for christmas every single day and to record the amount of steps I’ve taken (so that I can convert it to mileage for the july 4th goal). My second goal is to start drinking more water (my good ole 8 glasses a day).

 Yeah, I know, so it’s small goals but better to start small goals I can achieve than to start some crazy goal like ‘I’m going to run a whole mile in 10 minutes’ and then feel bad because I couldn’t accomplish it. I kind of figure that if I start out with small goals it’ll motivate me more when I reach them so that I’m feeling up to par for the bigger challenges later on. Lol, Maybe my logic is a moot point, but it works for me.

 Anyways, I’m doing this because I figure if I know how many steps I take during my normal daily routine, I know where my average is and then I can increase it. Since your body gets used to a certain kind of exercise you end up on a plateau and the only way to keep the graph going UP is if you INCREASE what you’re already doing! …Haha, flashback to geography.

Hope you ladies are having  a good day, I ended up waking up at 6 am this morning and went to work only to find that I had to be there at 7 PM, not 7 AM, so I think I may go snooze for a bit. Toodles~

SO, I suppose I should write a blog telling you all the boring details about me. Well, I just signed up to take my GED test since I didn’t get to finish my senior year of school. I’m incredibly proud of myself for finally deciding to get back into school, and that’s part of why I joined this site.  Not only for the health benefits, but… I’m changing my life and I figure I should change all the parts of my life I don’t like. I’m tired of not wanting people to take pictures of me, and being ashamed of the look on the cashiers face when they check in my size 36 pants. Not only that, but I think I may be getting engaged soon and… well, I want to look my best at my wedding. Not look back and think ‘I wish I was smaller then’. I don’t like the way I look, and I realize that it’s very hard for you to accomplish anything worthwhile in life if you aren’t happy with yourself first. Plus, how can you really appreciate and love other people if you can’t love yourself? Anyways, these are the reasons I’ve come here and… I hope it helps. I don’t like going to gyms because I feel like I’m the only fat person there, so I suppose that’s my first thing to tackle. I’ve seriously considered buying that Power 90 exercise video since I’ve heard really good things about it, but we’ll see if the budget allows. BTW, anybody notice how EXPENSIVE it is to eat healthy?!